December 2011
55 posts
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Him
polerin:
He was such a nice boy, so full of charm their hope and their pride. He was such a nice boy, but I’m not him.
These things I hold inside, the words to the story of me? These things I can’t say even though they’re true? What I don’t dare say to others so I just tell myself, because I’m not him.
I had a childhood, a life that came before, full of inconvenient facts and another...
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Twitter's post limit has clothes-lined me.
Right when two of my favorite twitter-ers begin a discussion I dearly wish to join.
I am getting really tired of this idea that...
twistedelle:
dumbthingswhitepplsay:
So, I would like any person who is privileged in some way who has learned even a little bit about how to change their views toward marginalized groups and how to respectfully engage marginalized groups to raise their hand.
*raises hand*
*raises both hands*
Is my hand up? Yeah, I think this is how I do it. It’s supposed to be above your head,...
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Xtra Xtra: Read All About It! →
Following is excerpted from Morgan M. Page’s article about why she’s boycotting Xtra.
“Babe can you call me the editor of Xtra is using my boy name on his FaceBook in referring to the story I did.”
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The story went up on the online edition of Xtra the next day with the deeply unfortunate title “The Dangers of Sex Work,” but all in all, it was a decent...
“At the heart of this issue, however, is that simple question: do we choose to be...”
– Quinnae Moongazer, Raiders of the Lost Etiology
“The question is bollocks and so is your face.”
(via kiriamaya)
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You Know You're Trans* When: #1982 People tell you...
“Yes. And your point is…? My genitals are none of your business. Nor are my chromosomes. They do not, in and of themselves, determine my gender.”
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Somebody says I can't be Genderqueer AND Femme at...
I say, they aren’t me. They haven’t lived my life, they can’t see the world through my eyes, hear it through my ears, taste it on my tongue, dance in it with my feet. I reserve the right, as all people should, to identify myself the way I want. And you, my gatekeeping friend, are wasting your time telling me I can’t. I’m not restricting myself through these...
when people use genderqueer and femme in the same... →
femmesandfamily:
abunchoftwats:
Because ironically femme in french designates solely people both bearing the XX chromosomes and identifying as being women.
It’s not a bad thing, it’s plain stupid, considering how people are always ranting about the word “woman” having “man” in it and “person” having “son” in it or w/e .
“I’m a genderqueeer femme !!!”
“I’m a non-binary woman !!!”
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when people use genderqueer and femme in the same...
zladkohasaboaraffe:
firstrisingvibes:
femmesandfamily:
abunchoftwats:
um…..I must be missing something. I know lots of genderqueer femmes. How is this a bad thing?
I wasn’t aware genderqueers were banned from being femmes…
Oh ok, OP makes total sense. Right.
lolno
I’ll just come out and say it: I am genderqueer, and often femme at the same time. NBD. Who is OP to police...
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[TW: ableist slur] How to apologise
lavender-labia:
The more time I spend on Tumblr, the more I realise that some people just don’t know how to apologise properly. These seems to cause a lot of unnecessary drama and hurt. With that in mind, here is my handy-guide to apologising.
How to apologise:
Say sorry and mean it.
Acknowledge what you did that was wrong. a) If you don’t know what you did, avoid further interaction until...
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10 Ways to Love Others
ohapoeticsoul:
Some guidelines for loving:
1. Tell them about their brilliance. They likely can’t see it and they don’t know its immensity, but you can see it, and you can illuminate it for them.
2. Be authentic, and give others the gift of the real you and a real relationship. Ask your real questions. Share your real beliefs. Go for your real dreams. Tell your truth.
3. Don’t confuse...
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Machines that can "determine gender" →
Read the link, then come back. I have a beef, but I can wait patiently for you to do the necessary research. I promise it won’t take long. :)
Back? So soon? Okay, on to the point: this endeavor is going the wrong direction. It is mechanizing profiling, based solely on our appearance. The idea that our sex can be determined by our appearance is problematic, not only computationally, but also...
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How to Deal with Parents Who are Not Accepting
artoftransliness:
A lot of people have come to us asking what they should do about parents who aren’t very accepting of their gender identity or decision to transition. When it comes to families, it’s difficult to give advice, because every family is different (as is every situation, for that matter). This is particularly difficult considering the wide range of behaviors that fall under “not...
Comments About Trans Articles...
beingdanny:
Knock it the fuck off!
There… are you snapped out of it yet? Because you’re missing the bigger picture. Listen up, here’s the thing…
I see comments from people on articles I post on TA sometimes where people get touchy about the language that is used in the article. They said “female bodied” omg. Did you see where they put “transgendered” ugh. Come on, chill the fuck out. ...
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The Mythical 'Other'
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So…I pretty actively engage with people on twitter about language and how it affects people in ways they may not realize. Specifically: how transmisogyny, heterosexism, and cissexism in language and slurs, while perhaps not intended to harm others, certainly DO harm others. It’s a frustrating, abusive, and rather thankless task. People have characterized what I do as...
“Private Manning has endured horrendous treatment in prison waiting for trial. ...”
– Emily Manuel, Why does the media still refer to “Bradley” Manning? The Curious Silence Around A Transgender Hero (Global Comment)
If you really want to show support for a trans woman, you can start by gendering her properly.
(via kiriamaya)
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invertinggender replied to your post: Hahaha. I love the tags on that reblog. Yeah, the language is gross and antiquated and there’s some horrendous gatekeeping going on. But I think these are requirements I can actually meet…?
It’s a huge conflict of interest for them and that’s why the policy will not be revised to be more inclusive anytime soon. Making it gatekeepery limits the claims.
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unnomjuste asked: Hahaha. I love the tags on that reblog. Yeah, the language is gross and antiquated and there's some horrendous gatekeeping going on. But I think these are requirements I can actually meet...?
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Invalidation
youarenotyou:
This article was really important for me in understanding myself and I know I have a lot of followers with BPD so it might be useful for you too.
Full article is linked at the bottom. I cut & pasted some especially pertinent parts. There is some ableist language and a lot of detailed exploration of abuse (and of course, invalidation) and references to self injury so proceed...
Gender Neutral Titles →
fyeahgenderqueers:
Genderqueeries has a huge list of gender neutral titles for parents, relatives, spouses, everything. Here’s an excerpt:
Girlfriend/Boyfriend (non-serious relationship)
Date; neutral, the person you are dating.
Lover; neutral, implies sexual relationship.
Boifriend; queer, boi is a particular gender identity.
Girlboyfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or...
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It's Ok to Be Neither: Teaching that supports... →
queerdanceparty:
I think this teacher’s approach to making their classroom more gender-variance friendly is inspired! I want to read all the gender-variance children’s books they suggest, and I think more teachers should have this approach because gender programming starts so early, and it can be so hard on gender non-conforming children! And it just warms my heart that it isn’t a simplistic...
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To The Reluctant Parent →
This is something I wish my parents would stumble on. These are exactly the things they need to hear. Sighh.
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“The Bill of rights was ratified 220 years ago, on December 15, 1791. It is...”
– OccupyWallSt.org (via wilwheaton)
Did anybody else get a bunch of random likes...
zesticola asked: Nah, none of them have ever said anything of the sort. If you google it it doesn't show up anywhere but here on tumblr. It's just really tasteless trolling.
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WikiHow: Respecting a Trans* Person →
I just came across this wikihow, and it seems very well put together. Does anybody have any thoughts on it?
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“Listen to the mustn’ts, child. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the shouldn’ts,...”
– Shel Silverstein (via rosenplantzandguildenfern)
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Dear famous trans* people,
iragray:
Please stop teaching the normative transgender narrative.
Sincerely,
This trans* person who is repeatedly left out of your form of education
(>.<) That awkward moment when you hit ‘Publish’ instead of ‘Reply Privately’
Tumblr, my Design of Everyday Things book taught me that I’m not actually stupid, it’s just poorly designed. YOUR ASK BOX MESSAGE SYSTEM IS POORLY DESIGNED AND I AM NOT HAPPY ABOUT THIS.
hypersymmetry asked: hiii, ive been reading your blog for some time now, before signing up for a tumblr. this makes me look like a stalker, but im not, really im not, im coming out as gender queer after along time of not realising my self, i dont need to go on, because i feel that you will at least sympathises and understand with some of my plight. i just wanted to tell you that iv learned alot from the things you...
I'm thinking about making a blog about lady-lovin'...
from-girl-to-steel:
Would anyone follow this? Posts would be similar to this and this. Topics would include media representation, erasure, angst, visibility, canon vs fanon, and popular ships like Jane/Maura (Rizzoli & Isles), Myka/Helena (Warehouse 13), Xena/Gabrielle (Xena: Warrior Princess), maybe Santana/Brittany and Rachel/Quinn (if I ever get around to watching Glee), Willow/Tara...
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How I decided I was trans*.
doctorawkward:
After struggling for about 12 years with my gender identity, I reached an epiphany which finally allowed me to admit to myself (and others) that I am transgendered and that I am ready to take steps to correct my body to match my brain. This epiphany happened about a year ago.
Up until that point, the biggest part of the years-long struggle wasn’t “am I, aren’t I,” but instead the...
Small rant
whencylonsdream:
I love how cis people assume that trans people never tried to be understanding. As if we were just a little less hostile or angry we’d suddenly be understood and everyone would love us and respect us.
When I first started to come out about being trans I did everything I could to make cis people more comfortable. I was under the impression that I was odd and what I was going...
Embracing ourselves is harder than it looks.
kiriamaya:
Here’s something that I’ve known for a while, but have been loathe to really accept (and btw, please hear me out before you decide I’m wrong and bad):
The fundiegelicals kinda have a point when they say that us queer folks are “destroying” marriage, gender, and the traditional family. Yes, it’s true that gay marriage won’t cause straight divorce, and that transitioning won’t suddenly...
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anotherlgbttumblr:
“If I hear one more complaint about trans women not being activists I am going to throw a fit. When people wonder why trans women still lip sync, or chase men, or worry about their makeup, instead of presenting papers or posting in newsgroups and holding meetings dedicated to busting up the binary, they commit the same misogynist crimes against women that men have been guilty...
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My femininity is about defiance, not placation.
amydentata:
kiriamaya:
amydentata:
kiriamaya:
That’s my response to all who would accuse me of trying to appease patriarchy, or going along to get along, or whatever, by being girly/femmey.
Fuck, if I wanted to appease patriarchy, I’d never have started transition.
MAAB femininity is the most radical it gets. Feminine MAAB people, regardless of gender, are the most demonized in terms of...
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Goodnight Dune →
sanaatamir:
A friend shared this with me, and I had a fansquee over it. :D
Makes me wanna go reread Dune again.
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"MY OPINION" does NOT mean:
thisgingersnapsback:
I am automatically correct!
You’re not allowed to disagree with me or vocalize this disagreement!
Anything you say to me in disagreement is immediately invalid because that’s just your opinion!
Your facts are just your opinion!
I have the right to never be questioned!
I’m just as informed as you are even though I’ve not looked at the facts!
I don’t NEED to look at the...